My mom is a crazy strict asian lady. but she knows that ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now. she’s still really protective over me. please help!
Shayla,
I too am Asian (though adopted) I know the feeling of protective parents! The clincher? They’re even more weary about boyfriends.. boo! But anyways, about your vacation, there are a few things I suggest you take into consideration before proposing your trip:
*Does your mother approve of your relationship?
*Would you feel tempted to do anything you know you shouldn’t while on the vacation?
*If you had a daughter wanting the same thing would you let her go?
If you feel your mother approves of your relationship, you are secure in your ability to resist temptations and would feel comfortable in letting your daughter do the same then it’s time to form your game plan. AKA what you’re going to say to convince your mom to let you go.
1.) Think of everything she will object to and find a genuine reason why it will not be a problem. If you can’t find one, maybe you shouldn’t go!
2.) Credit her. Being a parent is not easy, especially when your daughter wants to go on vacation with her boyfriend. Nobody wants to be the bad guy so let your mom know that you know she isn’t trying to be. She’s trying to protect you. But perhaps she can without hindering you.
3.) Be mature. Don’t call names or throw a tantrum. Be a good sport if she says ‘no’. She could always change her mind after seeing how grown up your are!
So your answer: 1.) Be sure you know what you’re signing up for. 2.) Have a solid plan to convince your mom to let you go!
Good luck and happy travels,
hope it helps! 
